This Weekend Breakthroughs

I had a couple of breakthroughs this weekend. The first one was that I discovered that I had lost my excitement and passion for the business and also for most of the things in my life. In every instance I can see that this is because of my own fear, guilt, depression, upset, rejection coupled with deception and manipulation by others.

Now I understand that I am responsible for managing my own states of passion and excitement and part of this has to be preventing or putting in process for:

a) self generation of excitement and passion
b) listen to what the fear, guilt, depression, upset is telling me and then look at taking action to remove this feelling
b) protection from deception and manipulation by others.
c) well meaning but negative comment from others

I have no idea how to do this yet but just wait and see I will master all of this.

The second breakthrough came from a breakdown. After reading the first chapter of John Demartinis book I realised how much my life was in disarray, I have recently moved house and a lot of stuff is messy and stuff is out of place. So I need to get everything ordered again.

This will provide clarity of thought and space to move forwards.

2nd day in the Gymn

Went to the gymn this morning and I feel so much more alive and focused. Sat on my new seat outside in the sun and wrote my list for today.

Suddenly everything is possible again and the passion and excitement are coming back into my life.

Move forwards - Acceptance and love

My thought for today is accepting, loving, appreciating others can bring acceptance, love and appreciation in return. Sort of what you give you get.

New inspirations

Today I already feel so much more powerful, I believe I will have no problem creating a winning business and I know what I want to do.

I have everything I need

My only concern is cashflow to get the business started.

I need to look at this, get my house in order and move forwards.

My self sacrifice and selflessness

Ok i have this tthing where i am big time self sacrificing and being selflessness .

It has cost me a fortune in cash and heartache and time and resentment

Other people probably feel guilty or unwoorthy of this ervice

And I am stuick in the patterns of this.


I need to work out how to get out of this pattern from several relationships!!!

Work from Dr Demartini

Wow have I learned today or what I have made tremendous progress.

I have learned about myths of relationships and the laws of love and inspiration and also started about giving up fantasy to aim for fulfillment in my relationships.

Its been an amazing day

The law of inspiration is really about constantly being inspired in the face of difficulties. We can be grateful for our adversities to as they teach as things in life and enable growth and strength. They build the muscle.

again its been an amazing day

the law of love is that i am worthy of love no matter what i have done and not done and that love is all around us.

the myths that so often govern relationship choices have been busted.

And the fantasy of trying to have somebody act in the way that you project them to act is really coming to light as well

Its been an amazing day ..for the third time !!!

Inauthenticities from Internet dating

I have created a great profile marketing myself but it does not tell the whole story.

It misses on the nitty gritty stuff, I need a good powerful way of communicating this in authentic way so that my dates are clear from any inauthenticities so there is a space for fun and romance to occur.

Need to work on this with Ahmed asap.

The absence of posts

Ok I have not posted for quite a while, more or less 6 months. Yet reviewing all the posts I can see how much learning there was on each one.

I think I've missed out on creating an "avalanche of success and awareness" because reading how I was posting before it was like a snowball effect where the discipline of posting builds day upon day.

Will now look to post 5 days a week again...lets see how this goes

Becoming overwhelmed about key disapointments / events in life

Whenever an event happens that is generally negative, what may happen is that we get overwhelmed for a period afterwards.

This event could be as diverse as the loss of a job, being conned in a business deal or being emotionally or physically abused. It could go further such as violence, the breakup of a relationship or being deprived of being around ones loved ones etc.

So whenever a reminder of that event occurs, such as meeting or talking to an old friend, that is connected in some way to the event. Or seeing children in the street or two lovers kissing. These things can trigger off a series of emotions that leave us overwhelmed.

What often happens once the first trigger is fired is that we get "activated" and we then fire all sorts of triggers in our minds to create our own overwhelm. This is like a domino effect and only causes to magnify the emotion.

This can be any emotion but includes such feelings as a sense of loss, humilation or victim type thoughts.

Its amazing how one external trigger can have all this power over us.


How do we get past all of this ?

My thoughts about how to stop all this from happening are to intercept every stage of the process:

• intercept for primary triggers
• intercepts for secondary triggers
• intercepts for erroneous negative thought and feeling patterns

How do we create these intercepts:

• we identify the triggers by writing them done and cataloguing them
• we identify the thoughts and feelings and stories that we play and write them down

After writing down the intercepts what we need to do is reprogramme our responses, there are a number of ways to do this

• NLP
• restating and living into new possibilities

Posting on being a victim

Ok, I'm coming back to this blog.

I'm in victim mode again today and what I believe is the more I think of being a victim the more I am. I could analyse and get more information about this and about my interactions with all these people / situations that I have been a victim around.

Ok so not only am i thinking this its got me and my head is a confused muddle, can you make sense of the action in the above paragraph. It's just a stab at solving the problem, not a very considered and grounded stab. Really, I've just been in a sort of desperate fix it mode.

Now ..so lets clear..

1. I am not in the past, i'm not the future, I'm just in the present.
2. i am only a victim because I allow it
3. I need to work on the triggers and how i get activated into this confused state
4. it will prob be very difficult and very emotional to work through all of this in one go i.e: work through all the transactions that make this happen, so...work on each person ... one at a time
   
5. I need to acknowledge that ... I am scared of myself and how I will confront these transactions knowing what i know. I am essentially afraid of triggering myself in these situations and therefore in avoidence of various situations and people
   
6. I could do with coping mechanisms and tactics for (5)
7. I could do with grounding myself with stronger roots for (5)
8. I will get very strong very soon, I am the rock

Ok

1. I need to work on the triggers and how i get activated into this confused state
2. Do a little every day on transactions and people
3. Work and develop strategies, coping and reprogramming for this
4. Keep a victim journal
5. listen to wayne dyers "Pulling Your Own Strings"
   

Actions:

i'm not really very religous but this rings true......

its from a religous site.

The following links argue that in a relationship:

• the man must love the woman unconditionally
• the woman must respect the man unconditionally

http://www.loveandrespect.com/content/crazy_cycle.php

and

http://www.loveandrespect.com/content/highDivorceRateVideo.php

Business is soooooo changing

http://www.hearmusic.com/ is a venture from Starbucks, there is no bounds for distrubution of digital mechandise

Lyrics

A chorus from a song by sweet, not reality...but sort of rings true to me

Love is like oxygen
You get too much you get too high
Not enough and you're gonna die
Love gets you high

Subjects to write about in the future

• what is the direction i want to take
• deep introspection ...where have i been
• history of the characters in my family
• how to get there ...the master plan
• my dream woman
• the meaning of love to me
• enjoying the journey
  
• contribution and leaving a legacy I can be proud of
• affecting and touching as many people positively as i can
• life at middle age
• Advancement of the human race: improved self knowledge and self management
  

Quotes of the day - Achievement

Happiness is that state of consciousness which proceeds from the achievement of one's values.

Ayn Rand (1905 - 1982)

The roots of true achievement lie in the will to become the best that you can become. Harold Taylor Failures are finger posts on the road to achievement.

C. S. Lewis (1898 - 1963)

Happiness lies in the joy of achievement and the thrill of creative effort.

Franklin D. Roosevelt (1882 - 1945)

The awareness of the ambiguity of one's highest achievements (as well as one's deepest failures) is a definite symptom of maturity.

Paul Tillich (1886 - 1965)

is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; because there is not effort without error and shortcomings; but who does actually strive to do the deed; who knows the great enthusiasm, the great devotion, who spends himself in a worthy cause, who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement and who at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly. So that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.

Theodore Roosevelt (1858 - 1919), "Man in the Arena" Speech given April 23, 1910

You are not here merely to make a living. You are here in order to enable the world to live more amply, with greater vision, with a finer spirit of hope and achievement. You are here to enrich the world, and you impoverish yourself if you forget the errand.

Woodrow Wilson (1856 - 1924)

It isn't the incompetent who destroy an organization. It is those who have achieved something and want to rest upon their achievements who are forever clogging things up.

Charles Sorenson

Every great work, every great accomplishment, has been brought into manifestation through holding to the vision, and often just before the big achievement, comes apparent failure and discouragement.

Florence Scovel Shinn

They who lack talent expect things to happen without effort. They ascribe failure to a lack of inspiration or ability, or to misfortune, rather than to insufficient application. At the core of every true talent there is an awareness of the difficulties inherent in any achievement, and the confidence that by persistence and patience something worthwhile will be realized. Thus talent is a species of vigor.

Eric Hoffer (1902 - 1983)

The greatest achievement of the human spirit is to live up to one's opportunities and make the most of one's resources.

Vauvenargues

In studying the history of the human mind one is impressed again and again by the fact that the growth of the mind is the widening of the range of consciousness, and that each step forward has been a most painful and laborious achievement. One could almost say that nothing is more hateful to man than to give up even a particle of his unconsciousness. Ask those who have tried to introduce a new idea!

Carl Jung (1875 - 1961)

Big thinking precedes great achievement.

Wilfred Peterson

Life is all one piece. Men err when they think they can be inhuman exploiters in their business life, and loving husbands and fathers at home. For achievement without love is a cold and tight-lipped murderer of human happiness everywhere.

Smiley Blanton

Our achievements speak for themselves. What we have to keep track of are our failures, discouragements and doubts. We tend to forget the past difficulties, the many false starts, and the painful groping. We see our past achievements as the end results of a clean forward thrust, and our present difficulties as signs of decline and decay.

Eric Hoffer (1902 - 1983)

Trust yourself. Create the kind of self that you will be happy to live with all your life. Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievement.

Foster C. McClellan

Nor is it always in the most distinguished achievements that men's virtues or vices may be best discovered: but very often an action of small note, a short saying, or a jest, shall distinguish a person's real character more than the greatest sieges, or the most important battle.

Plutarch (46 AD - 120 AD)

The achievement of your goal is assured the moment you commit yourself to it.

Mack R. Douglas

Energy - Emotional and Physical

Had loads of work to do on Sunday and thought with myself for a lot of Saturday whether I should goto salsa or not.

Was fighting with myself, do I go and enjoyment , feeling guilty etc. Went through so many emotions, lonely, frustrated, upset, deprived, strong, hopelessness, upset, guilt, etc

In the end I went and had an amazing time, gave me lots of good emotional energy.

I'm glad I went.

I felt tired on Sunday but this was a function of physiology more than anything else. I need to make sure I eat and drink in the optimum quanities and the best food for energy.

Some dictionary definitions

tenacious
adjective

1. holding firmly to something.
   
2. persisting in existence or in a course of action.

courage
noun

1. the ability to do something that frightens one.
2. strength in the face of pain or grie

phrases

• have the courage of one’s convictions act on one’s beliefs despite danger or disapproval.
• take one’s courage in both hands nerve oneself to do something that frightens one.

self-determination
noun

1. the process by which a country determines its own statehood and forms its own allegiances and government.
   
2. the process by which a person controls their own life.

determination
noun

1. firmness of purpose; resolutenesss.
2. the action or process of determining.

robust
adjective

1. sturdy or resilient.
2. strong and healthy.
3. uncompromising and forceful; not subtle: a robust defence.
4. (of wine or food) strong and rich in flavour or smell.

steady
adjective

1. firmly fixed, supported, or balanced.
2. not faltering or wavering; controlled.
3. sensible and reliable.
4. regular, even, and continuous in development, frequency, or intensity.

verb

1. make or become steady.

balance
noun

1. an even distribution of weight ensuring stability.
2. mental or emotional stability.
3. a condition in which different elements are equal or in the correct proportions.
4. an apparatus for weighing, especially one with a beam and central pivot.
5. a preponderance: the balance of opinion was that work was important.
6. a figure representing the difference between credits and debits in an account.

verb

1. be or put in a steady position.
2. compare the value of (one thing) with another.
3. establish equal or appropriate proportions of elements in.

power
noun

1. the ability to do something or act in a particular way.
2. the capacity to influence other people or the course of events.
3. a right or authority given or delegated to a person or body.
4. political authority or control.
5. physical strength or force.
6. a country viewed in terms of its international influence and military strength: a world power.
7. capacity or performance of an engine or other device.
8. energy that is produced by mechanical, electrical, or other means.
9. Physics the rate of doing work, measured in watts or horse power.
10. Mathematics the product obtained when a number is multiplied by itself a certain number of times.
    

root
noun

1. a part of a plant normally below ground, which acts as a support and collects water and nourishment.
2. the embedded part of a bodily organ or structure such as a hair.
3. (also root vegetable) a turnip, carrot, or other vegetable which grows as the root of a plant.
4. the basic cause, source, or origin: money is the root of all evil.
5. (roots) family, ethnic, or cultural origins.
6. (also root note) Music the fundamental note of a chord.
7. Linguistics a form from which words have been made by the addition of prefixes or suffixes or by other modification.
8. Mathematics a number or quantity that when multiplied by itself one or more times gives a specified number or quantity.

verb

1. cause (a plant or cutting) to establish roots.
2. (usu. be rooted) establish deeply and firmly.
3. (be rooted in) have as a source or origin.
4. (be rooted) stand immobile through fear or amazement.
5. (root out/up) find and get rid of.
6. Austral./NZ & Irish vulgar slang have sexual intercourse with.

nourishment
noun

1. the food or other substances necessary for growth, health, and good condition.
2. the action of nourishing.

strength
noun

1. the quality or state of being strong.
2. good or beneficial quality or attribute.
3. literary a source of mental or emotional support.
4. the number of people comprising a group.
5. a full complement of people: 100 staff below strength.

phrases

• go from strength to strength progress with increasing success.
• in strength in large numbers.
• on the strength of on the basis or with the justification of.
• tower (or pillar) of strength a person who can be relied upon to support and comfort others.

solid
adjective

1. firm and stable in shape; not liquid or fluid.
2. strongly built or made.
3. not hollow or having spaces or gaps.
4. consisting of the same substance throughout.
5. (of time) continuous.
6. able to be relied on; dependable or sound.
7. Geometry three-dimensional.

noun

• a solid substance or object.
• (solids) food that is not liquid.
• a three-dimensional body or geometric figure.

rock
noun

1. the hard mineral material of the earth’s crust, exposed on the surface or underlying the soil.
2. a mass of rock projecting out of the ground or water.
3. a boulder.
4. Geology any natural material with a distinctive composition of minerals.
5. Brit. a kind of hard confectionery in the form of cylindrical peppermint-flavoured sticks.
6. informal a diamond or other precious stone.

port
noun

1. a town or city with a harbour.
2. a harbour.
3. harbour

noun

1. a place on the coast where ships may moor in she

Climbing Everest

Half watched a TV program while working lastr night on some medics climbing Everest.

They were going through all sorts of hardships to accomplish there goal.

There were also distracted by members of othere teams that were risky their lives or close to death.

Its amazing what people will do in their pursuit of a goal.

Taking inspiration from these guys is easy.

I have a different mountain to climb but I have my health and everything is positive.

I am the rock....today with an eye of the tiger....making amazing progress on my mountain.

2barock - rocky - eye of the tiger - inspiration

from Sunday's research.

Risin' up, back on the street
Did my time, took my chances
Went the distance, now I'm back on my feet
Just a man and his will to survive

So many times, it happens too fast
You change your passion for glory
Don't lose your grip on the dreams of the past
You must fight just to keep them alive

Chorus:
It's the eye of the tiger, it's the cream of the fight
Risin' up to the challenge of our rival
And the last known survivor stalks his prey in the night
And he's watchin' us all in the eye of the tiger

Face to face, out in the heat
Hangin' tough, stayin' hungry
They stack the odds 'til we take to the street
For we kill with the skill to survive

chorus

Risin' up, straight to the top
Have the guts, got the glory
Went the distance, now I'm not gonna stop
Just a man and his will to survive

chorus

The eye of the tiger (repeats out)...

The quotes to focus on today

1. Don't be too timid and squeamish about your actions. All life is an experiment. The more experiments you make the better.
   
   
   
2. The only way to have a friend is to be one.
   
   
   
3. Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day; begin it well and serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense.
   
   
   
4. Character is higher than intellect... A great soul will be strong to live, as well as to think.
   
   
   
5. Be not the slave of your own past. Plunge into the sublime seas, dive deep and swim far, so you shall come back with self-respect, with new power, with an advanced experience that shall explain and overlook the old.
   
   
   
6. Make the most of yourself, for that is all there is of you.