Becoming overwhelmed about key disapointments / events in life

Whenever an event happens that is generally negative, what may happen is that we get overwhelmed for a period afterwards.

This event could be as diverse as the loss of a job, being conned in a business deal or being emotionally or physically abused. It could go further such as violence, the breakup of a relationship or being deprived of being around ones loved ones etc.

So whenever a reminder of that event occurs, such as meeting or talking to an old friend, that is connected in some way to the event. Or seeing children in the street or two lovers kissing. These things can trigger off a series of emotions that leave us overwhelmed.

What often happens once the first trigger is fired is that we get "activated" and we then fire all sorts of triggers in our minds to create our own overwhelm. This is like a domino effect and only causes to magnify the emotion.

This can be any emotion but includes such feelings as a sense of loss, humilation or victim type thoughts.

Its amazing how one external trigger can have all this power over us.


How do we get past all of this ?

My thoughts about how to stop all this from happening are to intercept every stage of the process:

• intercept for primary triggers
• intercepts for secondary triggers
• intercepts for erroneous negative thought and feeling patterns

How do we create these intercepts:

• we identify the triggers by writing them done and cataloguing them
• we identify the thoughts and feelings and stories that we play and write them down

After writing down the intercepts what we need to do is reprogramme our responses, there are a number of ways to do this

• NLP
• restating and living into new possibilities