The absence of posts

Ok I have not posted for quite a while, more or less 6 months. Yet reviewing all the posts I can see how much learning there was on each one.

I think I've missed out on creating an "avalanche of success and awareness" because reading how I was posting before it was like a snowball effect where the discipline of posting builds day upon day.

Will now look to post 5 days a week again...lets see how this goes

Becoming overwhelmed about key disapointments / events in life

Whenever an event happens that is generally negative, what may happen is that we get overwhelmed for a period afterwards.

This event could be as diverse as the loss of a job, being conned in a business deal or being emotionally or physically abused. It could go further such as violence, the breakup of a relationship or being deprived of being around ones loved ones etc.

So whenever a reminder of that event occurs, such as meeting or talking to an old friend, that is connected in some way to the event. Or seeing children in the street or two lovers kissing. These things can trigger off a series of emotions that leave us overwhelmed.

What often happens once the first trigger is fired is that we get "activated" and we then fire all sorts of triggers in our minds to create our own overwhelm. This is like a domino effect and only causes to magnify the emotion.

This can be any emotion but includes such feelings as a sense of loss, humilation or victim type thoughts.

Its amazing how one external trigger can have all this power over us.


How do we get past all of this ?

My thoughts about how to stop all this from happening are to intercept every stage of the process:

• intercept for primary triggers
• intercepts for secondary triggers
• intercepts for erroneous negative thought and feeling patterns

How do we create these intercepts:

• we identify the triggers by writing them done and cataloguing them
• we identify the thoughts and feelings and stories that we play and write them down

After writing down the intercepts what we need to do is reprogramme our responses, there are a number of ways to do this

• NLP
• restating and living into new possibilities

Posting on being a victim

Ok, I'm coming back to this blog.

I'm in victim mode again today and what I believe is the more I think of being a victim the more I am. I could analyse and get more information about this and about my interactions with all these people / situations that I have been a victim around.

Ok so not only am i thinking this its got me and my head is a confused muddle, can you make sense of the action in the above paragraph. It's just a stab at solving the problem, not a very considered and grounded stab. Really, I've just been in a sort of desperate fix it mode.

Now ..so lets clear..

1. I am not in the past, i'm not the future, I'm just in the present.
2. i am only a victim because I allow it
3. I need to work on the triggers and how i get activated into this confused state
4. it will prob be very difficult and very emotional to work through all of this in one go i.e: work through all the transactions that make this happen, so...work on each person ... one at a time
   
5. I need to acknowledge that ... I am scared of myself and how I will confront these transactions knowing what i know. I am essentially afraid of triggering myself in these situations and therefore in avoidence of various situations and people
   
6. I could do with coping mechanisms and tactics for (5)
7. I could do with grounding myself with stronger roots for (5)
8. I will get very strong very soon, I am the rock

Ok

1. I need to work on the triggers and how i get activated into this confused state
2. Do a little every day on transactions and people
3. Work and develop strategies, coping and reprogramming for this
4. Keep a victim journal
5. listen to wayne dyers "Pulling Your Own Strings"
   

Actions:

i'm not really very religous but this rings true......

its from a religous site.

The following links argue that in a relationship:

• the man must love the woman unconditionally
• the woman must respect the man unconditionally

http://www.loveandrespect.com/content/crazy_cycle.php

and

http://www.loveandrespect.com/content/highDivorceRateVideo.php

Business is soooooo changing

http://www.hearmusic.com/ is a venture from Starbucks, there is no bounds for distrubution of digital mechandise

Lyrics

A chorus from a song by sweet, not reality...but sort of rings true to me

Love is like oxygen
You get too much you get too high
Not enough and you're gonna die
Love gets you high

Subjects to write about in the future

• what is the direction i want to take
• deep introspection ...where have i been
• history of the characters in my family
• how to get there ...the master plan
• my dream woman
• the meaning of love to me
• enjoying the journey
  
• contribution and leaving a legacy I can be proud of
• affecting and touching as many people positively as i can
• life at middle age
• Advancement of the human race: improved self knowledge and self management